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The Other Side of Desire Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and LongingHow do we come to be who we are sexually How do we cope with the forces of desire How can we understand the relationship between the trans Daniel Bergner image from his site What if you were wired to have sexual desires that were considered odd bizarre maybe even criminal Bergner looks at four people whose needs are not like yours and mine While living in a garden variety marriage one man finds true sexual fulfillment only with women’s feet The Baroness is a rare female sadist who offers her masochist slaves servants and clients far than they can find anywhere else A child molester struggles with his forbidden desires A photographer is attracted to amputees We get a close up look at these four people Were they born the way they are Were their predilections the result of nature nurture specific chemical interactions while they were in vitro Bergner talks with caregivers and researchers looking for insight What is normal This is a fascinating book that treats an out there subject respectfully and offers us a window into the challenges faced by people who are truly different Or are theyThe author's personal site and Twitter page

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The Other Side of Desire Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing kindle Ï eBook 9780060885564 ¿ naturaltreatment ´ How do we come to be who we are sexually How do we cope with the forces of desire How can we understand the relatioCendent and the physical between the wish for love and the anarchy of the erotic Daniel Bergner looks for answers in the stories of four p Before I read this book whenever I heard someone had a foot fetish I thought it was comical; if I heard someone was masochisticsadistic I thought it was frightening; if I heard someone was a pedophile I was thoroughly disgusted This book is truly an education in what we normally consider perversion from the merely weird to the criminally insane The author treats his subjects with respect dignity and natural curiosity When his own biases come into play he clearly states them and then puts them aside in the interests of setting forth as much clear information as possible He interviews probation officers psychiatrists doctors along with child molesters and various people who practice deviant sexual behaviors There's the guy with the foot fetish who finds summers to be torture because he can hardly bear to look at all the women who wear sandals in the grocery store He gets as completely turned on by bare feet as another man might be if women went to the grocery store topless His life is extraordinarily difficult and he cannot bring himself to share his secret fantasy with his wife Then there's a famous female masochist in New York City known as The Baroness who is happily married to a normal man yet she spends her weekends at parties where she is the guest of honor without him She is one of the rare female masochists to be found Although many prostitutes will perform masochistic acts on reuest the Baroness is actually sought after because she is a true masochist and enjoys sexual torturing which heightens the pleasure of her victimsclients One of the interesting aspects of this book is that is doesn't feel voyeuristic and there's no prurient interest being evoked Rather it is a rare window into the minds and lives of people who are so extremely different from the norm that they might be another species and yet they are just like us is all other respects

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Eople whose unusual desires raise fascinating uestions about the erotic differences between men and women and the nature of ecstasy itself A fine book unflinching at times uncomfortable sentimental sans mawkishness or mockery revealing at once sad and hopeful to the core written sympathetically but not without awareness self and otherwise A prismatic inuiry into the nature and effects of sexual desire split into the different story spectra of several people outside the statistical sexual norm And threading through it all the dark twin of the human need to be accepted desired loved the need to be reviled by oneself to find uniueness if only by and in self hatred The levels of self disgust that at times take each of the main subjects seen also in some of their therapists friends families is it even deeper than the sexual instinct I'm it's tempting to say Alas much vanilla celibate and boringly standard than the people Bergner writes about; you may well be also But I'd hazard that we've all foundered in that subterranean sea Am I a freak Am I the only one who feels this way Why am I like this Why can't I change Who could love me When will it stop