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Summary ´ PDF, DOC, TXT, eBook or Kindle ePUB free ´ Susan Cain De after his talks to a record breaking salesman who uietly taps into the power of uestions Passionately argued superbly researched and filled with indelible stories of real people uiet has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and eually important how they see themselvesNow with Extra Libris material including a reader’s guide and bonus conte. This is the first time in my life I'm saying this I'm so proud to be an introvert

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uietThe Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking Review à 102 Ý The book that started the uiet RevolutionAt least one third of the people we know are introverts They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self promotion; who favor working on their o The book that started the uiet RevolutionAt least one third of the people we know are introverts They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self promotion; who favor working on their own over working in teams It is to introverts Rosa Parks Chopin Dr Seuss Steve Wozniak that we owe many of the great contributions to s. I always thought I was just weirdI can be alone in my car for a 1h drive and not want to have the radio or music on On sundays I often join the walking club for a long 25km walk but I prefer to do it alone and oh all the pity looks you get The idea of surprise parties makes me sick to my stomach and any event where a thousand people are together is possibly even worse I dislike small talk but I probably hate even how nervous I get when I have to do it I can feel sad for a bruised tomato no one wants to buy hey he tried his best too not his fault someone dropped him and while everyone else goes to the modern light apothecary across the street with the super nice people always happy to help I go to the dark and older one who never has clients how else will he surviveTurns out I'm not that weird I'm just a full blood introvert And yet I'm not what you think I'm not particularly shy I'm not the grey bird that never says a word and everyone forgets she's around I'm very opinionated and uite stubborn and when amongst friends I know well I can be the loudest person in the room But still I'm introvert After being with friends or colleagues I need recharging time I need to be alone I almost always think before I talk I enjoy getting to the bottom of things I enjoy detective work And I can go on and onWhile reading this book on occasion I was nodding so hard I thought my head might fall offThere were very little eye opening surprises in this book and even a few things I didn't agree with or I would have hoped for her to explore Even a few occasions I thought she was idealizing introverts This book was not perfect but somehow i feel that it was important for me to read itOverall it was uite liberating I'm not that weird About a third of us on this planet and on a website as Goodreads probably a LOT are or less like me not completely like me I'm still uniue I insistBut that might not be an issue Though some of you might recognize some of my examples above I've never met someone before that can feel bad for a bruised tomato So maybe i'm still little weird and my own uniue self Hoorah

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uietThe Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop TalkingOciety In uiet Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so She charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal throughout the twentieth century and explores how deeply it has come to permeate our culture She also introduces us to successful introverts from a witty high octane public speaker who recharges in solitu. In a twist that will surprise precisely no one this book spends a fair amount of time cheering for introverts What were the odds right I assume if you're picking this book up you're on board with that to a certain extent and likely something of an introvert yourself This book is certainly for you or for the perplexed extrovert or pseudo extrovert that might be confused by your supposedly mysterious ways It's a sort of shield a blockade a set of reinforced walls that Cain feels it is necessary to throw up around introverts particularly American introverts to protect them from the Extrovered Ideal of American socialization The tone of the beginning of the book is thus rather defiant like Cain is screaming back at everyone she has ever felt pressured by to go to a happy hour or to a dinner party when she had much rather just read a book instead There's some of this kick back throughout the book with plenty of catharticsympatheticrather relatable war stories from introverts just tryin' to make it in an extrovert's world It is particularly meant to speak to introverts in the high flying business legal andor educational world where a premium is put on socializing teamwork constant connection and multitasking I am speaking here particularly of the rarefied worlds of Big Law Wall Street Finance and Ivy League academia It's a very career and work focused book with a surprisingly freuent focus on the bottom line about what traits introverts are likely to have and how these should be recognized at the top tables in all fields Her argument based on one scientific study after another throughout the chapters deployed like so much artillery is that introverts tend to think deeply about problems and persist for longer in trying to solve them Introverts are supposedly likely to care about the feelings of others to make excellent compromising leaders and to be excellent negotiators Cain's particular area of expertise based on their ability to seem soft and actually be tough at the same time She scorns the merely shy as extroverts in disguise who share extroverts' traits and want the spotlight but who are just too scared to get it she would never say this outright but it is clear that she believes they don't deserve the secret introvert password and is determined to keep out the riffraff She argues that the extroverts in powerful positions she has seen are likely to take unjustified risks to get hopped up on testosterone and the thrill of the chase to listen to the loudest person in the room and to walk all over introvertsShe readily admits the nuances in these sweeping generalizations She also admits the worth of extroverts and how introverts greatly enjoy and need their company both professionally and personally In addition she also talks about some legitimate times when introverts may devote time and energy to being extroverted if they care about something enough Free Trait Theory Finally and in the part that I most appreciated Cain talks a bit about the Situational theory of personality that is that people's personalities can be completely different in different situations times and around different people Therefore there are very few pure introverts or pure extroverts She also admits that the way that these generalized traits play out may look very different and may after all not be very predictive in any direct way Many extroverts may have excellent impulse control or introverts who care deeply about a cause may act freuently and completely out of character in order to fight for what they believe inHowever the space devoted to these arguments is much much smaller than the space devoted to proving endlessly how awesome introverts are and why the professional world should value them and stop trying to tell them that they have to be like extroverts because I'm okay and you're okay and it takes all kinds and a village to make the world go roundAnd honestly This is a message that's happening to hit me at the right time when I'm involved in a workplace with a whole lot of extroverts surrounding me I did find it useful in my particular mindset where I am actively waging a struggle to define my own style in a new profession since introversion is a part of my identity I also thought that some of the studies she cited DO make a lot of sense and should be widely looked at like the ones that talk about why it's a good idea to ask people to provide feedback and brainstorm online rather than in big meetings or why introverts with closed door offices are productive or some of the advice to parents about how to cherish their introverted child I also think that it's nice to have someone sounding the alert that someone speaking uietly is not wrong by default turn on cable news for thirty seconds and you'll be reminded why that is importantAnd yet despite the evident time put into this book and despite my bias towards it I couldn't shake the feeling of cynical uestioning of what felt like a great deal of pop psychology and arguments made based on feelings anecdotes and newspaper clippings collected into a narrative It felt like a file you might keep to make yourself feel better and to express an important part of your identity rather than a research paper and I'm sure it was aiming at something closer to that crossed with an advice column There's such a lot of speculation in here and lots of scientific studies without citations or countervailing evidence brought into play For example it certainly didn't help that the minute after I read one of the fluffy scientific studies in here about how we Americans as a culture are drawn to people that display significantly traditionally dominant body language in pictures I saw it in an issue of Marie Claire in a box near the back of the magazine reconfigured to be about women being attracted to men and how you've gotta look aggressive and Manly to get us ladiezz don't you know It just seems like a book written for a specific audience that you can rely on to make that leap to just know what you mean because they've got an emotional bank of misunderstood years and moments to draw on In short it appeals to an emotional truth built on hundreds of pages of stories and studies that may or may not add up to anything at all On the one hand it's maybe okay to create a space for a community of sorts to feel and process some of that on the other hand it will drag down the overall uality of that work into something closer to a melancholy history crossed with a dinner party argument Therefore despite its strengths and despite the personal enjoyment and help that I have taken from the book at this particular time I can't rate it as than an above average read An intellectualized comfort read for introverted professionals really if such a specialized category really exists I can't rate it higher when I feel like one good scholarly journal review would take the whole theory down especially when it feels like an argument for corporations to pay introverts a lot of the time Nonetheless a lot of interesting uestions asked a lot of self reflection inspired Recommended for my fellow introverts if you're at a place where you feel like something like I described above might be helpful to you at this time Otherwise I'd say you could skip it or just watch her TED talk instead